How To Exercise Self Control In Relationships

Sticking hard to the word of God daily is the sureway to control your insatiable appetites in any relationships.

Please read : 1 Corinthians 7:1-1-9, 33-34;1 Corinthians 13

Dear Friend,

Oh wow, this week was just great! You need to get the DVDs/CDs to hear the important details our pastor shared. We understand that God's original intent is for everyone of us who desires to marry to find one who is a suitable complement to us. Once we allow God’s standard to lead us ,we will find a mate that we are physically attracted to. One that we enjoy pleasing . One who complements us in fulfilling God’s purpose for our lives. Remember no matter where you are today in your relationships, God can bring His blessing in, if you make a quality decision to change your course to follow the dictates of what His word says concerning your relationship. If you sincerely desire His help, God is willing to give you grace to live in harmony with your spouse, always. It takes consistently feeding on the word of God to provide the inner strength you need, so that your spirit and your renewed mind will lead you and not how you feel. Therefore, the seeming negative tendencies we see in each other should not “get on our “nerves” but rather be used as a means to maintain balance in the affairs of our homes. Think about that. Hmm!? God has provided all the satisfaction and fulfillment you will ever need in marriage in your spouse. It is therefore your God given responsibility to discover them, then do your part to create the right environment through obedience in the word to nourish its constant flow. Relationship building is work.

Boundaries keep us legal and safe! Therefore, enjoy the boundaries the word of God provides for you. You may say,”Oh no ! you do not understand, I am physically attracted to this other woman/man.” “I have an uncontrollable sexual appetite ,or I cannot stop indulging in pornography and masturbation.” My friend, I know you say you love God ,but these practices go against the word of God and the nature of Love and will ruin your marriage. Love does not seek to please its own. Talk openly to your spouse about your desires and be ready to yield to what the word instructs both of you to do. As a Christian you are to control your appetites and conduct yourself in a manner that is pleasing to God.

The next time you are tempted, reach out for the word. In addition, put away sexually explicit material and avoid conversations, places, or company with friends that may encourage you to fall for the temptation. Another way out is to pray in the language of the spirit regularly so you can be built up in faith and allow the Holy Spirit to grace you with self control against anger, sexual immorality or wasteful spending. You can overcome and enjoy your family!

No matter what you are faced with, let the wisdom of God guide you to do your best and expect the best always.

Prayer: Heavenly father in Jesus name help me ! I know you want me to love my spouse or loved one unconditionally. This time I’m ready to allow you to walk with me every step of the way, so I can succeed .